When working with a client holistically with the Brennan Healing Science techniques, it is necessary for the practitioner to be aware at all times of their own process and what they (the healer) brings emotionally, psychologically and spiritually to the healing. It is important for the healer to have done their own work in realizing their issues and to have worked to resolve any outstanding inner conflicts that might get in the way of being a true conduit for the energies and guidance for the client.
Within the four-years or more training of the healer, the student is encouraged and led to understand and master within themselves the following attributes and anyone not seen as progressing is invited to repeat that particular year. In that way, a graduate becomes someone who has attained a certain level of deep understanding of themselves and others that benefits the client as well as themselves. A healer needs to have experienced deep self-reflections and healing in order for him/her to hold the container for the client. A healer cannot hold that place for the client if they have not experienced it for themselves.
LIST OF SKILLS
Contraction and expansion and stasis are the breath of the Universe. It is seen and felt within the seasons, within the life and death cycles of all life and within the cycles of our own breathing. It is found in the patterns of nature and our own emotional nature. Contraction is ingathering, inward movement. Expansion is creativity, growth, and forward movement and then there is Stasis. Stasis is the moment of stillness, the pause that preserves, that gathers in readiness to expand or contract A healer must know and feel where they are emotionally and psychologically as to whether they are in expansion or contraction or in the moment of reflection. If they are in contraction when they are working with a client, a healer must recognize their own process and not let it affect the session.
Listening to the client with deep focus and attention is crucial to the healing process. A healer must be hearing what the client is describing to them, not figuring out how they want to respond to the client. Many times a client is someone who has never felt heard in their life on matters of importance so it is doubly important that the client perceives that they are heard, listened to and felt. Once the healer has a moment to consider the clients’ words, then a response can be forthcoming.
Learning to be in deep contact with the client means that there exists a rapport of trust and safety with the relationship between the healer and their client. The healer listening, respecting the client, and always being present in the moment accomplishes this. The healer and the client recognize the Essence in one another even though they know themselves as separate. Through the healers’ presence, the client can perceive the compassion and integrity and caring that is so important to the therapeutic relationship.
Unless we come into this world as an avatar or enlightened being we will acquire woundings in our early and perhaps later childhood. These can be various levels of betrayal, abandonment, existential fears or emotional or physical invasions. However, the main cause of wounding in the embodied spirit is being in separation from Source. Consequently, the child develops particular defenses to keep themselves safe, which is necessary for the child, but as an adult, these same defenses get in the way to leading lives of joy, accomplishments or connection with others. The main wounding is what we have come here to heal. It is also the healing of this wounding that produces the gift that the person has come into the world with which to serve.
Higher Self, Lower Self, Mask Self & Shadow
Because we live in a dualistic reality-think yin and yang- we experience more than just joy and bliss. Because we have an ego in this 3rd dimensional reality that tends to be fearful and wants to always be safe and not change the status quo, we develop a Higher Self, a Lower Self, a Mask Self and a Shadow. The Higher Self is our true self who wants truth, self awareness and union, while the Lower Self, who can definitely act out like a two or three year old, is born from the main wounding of separation and wants what it wants now. The Mask Self is the face we present to others so others do not see the emotions of the Lower Self (anger, rage, malice, jealousy, etc.). The Shadow is the denied parts of ourselves that we either consciously or unconsciously carry inside us. It can have a positive or a negative connotation depending on what we are denying in our lives.
We learn as children to defend ourselves in many different ways in order to feel safe and loved. We might assume different postures or become angry or separate ourselves from others. We might energetically leave, or modify our behaviors in some way. We might become clingy, or manipulative or passive aggressive and self-sabotaging. It is how the children make themselves feel safe in their world that our defenses develop. Whatever form it takes we are not being genuine with the other or ourselves. Healing these behaviors starts with healing our main wounding.
Main Belief/ Image & its Constellation
Our main belief, which gives us a distorted, misconceived view of the world, is the principal expression of limiting our function in the world. This produces our biggest character flaw and initiates shame within us. It gives rise to other correlating beliefs that further enhances the main image.
What are our intentions towards ourselves, another and our life? In each moment we need to have clarity about our intentions both positive and negative. If negative, we need to look at what is behind it- where we are in denial, and we need to heal it. Intentions are creative and holding negative ones just makes our lives more difficult. Positive intentions serve our growth and evolution of our soul. Negative intentions serve our fearful or angry ego.
Everyone one of us ‘sees’ their world differently than any other person because each of us has life experiences different from all others, therefore each person develops different beliefs which color their view of the world. When we are in relationships, particularly, we can ‘transfer’ our emotions from a past traumatic experience to a present emotional reaction because our beliefs say that the situation is true. Transference can be negative as in the foregoing or positive where the person sees only the ‘good’ and not a balanced view. Working to understand transference in us means becoming impeccable about asking, ’what is really here right now’ and being in self-truth in order to deal with present genuine reality.
We can have boundary issues with ourselves and we can boundary issues with another. Keeping our Word to ourselves is an important skill because it is a measure of our self- respect, self-esteem and self-love for us. Keeping good boundaries with another shows not only respect for the other, but also our commitment to our community and the highest good for all. There are different kinds of boundaries that we create. As physical beings our skin clothes, walls, yard perimeter, towns, cities, etc. are just a few. Emotionally we develop boundaries with our feelings and emotional attachments to things and people. Mentally we throw up boundaries around our ideas and creativities, and spiritually we create boundaries about our belief systems our spiritual ideas or dogma and our ideas of Deity in our lives. Our energy field can feel invaded or be invasive to someone else as well as the defensive systems we learn to keep us safe. It is important for the healer to understand the personal boundaries of the client because the presence of dis-ease pre-supposes their boundaries are faulty in some manner. The healer will need to adapt their boundaries to work with the client.
The ego springs from the deductive reasoning of the left- brain. It is the conscious, cautious side of us. It wants safety and stability and no change. It compares our present reality with the belief systems we have acquired through our lives and selects those actions aligned with those belief systems, true or not. Our behavior then follows from these belief systems. The Super Ego is more specific and arises from outside influencing. It is the voice inside our head that says yes or more realistically no. It is learned responses that we have grown up with. Sometimes it resembles a voice from our childhood who always was limiting us or preaching at us, such as a parent, a sibling or a teacher.
The Witness, Asker & Experiencer
This skill is process oriented toward a present moment emotional reaction. When we are presented with a situation and find ourselves having an emotional reaction that is way out of proportion to what is in front of us, this process helps us to get at the real reason behind the emotions. For instance, in a present time confrontational situation, all of a sudden we feel ten years old and enraged all out of proportion to the present event. By taking a few moments to detach and witness our emotional reactions as well as be in the experience, we can ask (to ourselves of course), “What is really here now?” The answer, (with focus and feeling this will come), is that we are not reacting to the present confrontation; we are reacting to an event that happened in childhood that enraged us. Then, because that was never healed, we become triggered by the same energies that came at us in the present situation. Realizing this can bring the present moment more clarity to be healed.
Surrender is not giving up- it is letting go. It shows ultimate faith and trust in the present moment. It says, ‘I can let go and detach myself from what is present because I trust Life, the Universe and Everything that everything in front of me is for my highest good even if it is not obvious to me’. The present ego ‘dies’ only to realize a more expanded self.